Monday, October 29, 2007

Michael is having a hard time too...

This has been such a hard day on Michael. he's had such a great outpouring of support from his friends, but was mentally exhausted when he got home. He worried his grandmother enough that she called me at the hospital because he just wouldn't talk.

Well, I called his Dad...nobody quite gets Michael out of his shell like Mike. Mike got him talking and everything is going ok, he's feeling better.

I share this because this is hard on each of us...don't underestimate the effect this is having on you - especially if you are a close friend of any of us. Please, PLEASE, if you are feeling overwhelmed, or deeply sad, don't shut yourself off...talk to a parent (we're not all evil...)talk to a friend(but remember they may be going through it too - or completely removed from the situation), or if a THS student go talk to Mrs. T, Marsha, Mr. Harris.

None of us are alone in this and can be as supportive of each other in our dealing with this as people are in support of her family.

As much as your thoughts are with us, our thoughts are also with you.

Sara is very much loved.

2 comments:

  1. Are you referring to your ex-husband Mike as Michael's "Dad"? If so, what do you consider Tracy??? I'm confused, and I think Tracy and I at least deserve an explaination.

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  2. Apologies for any concern or confusion.

    Tracy is Michael and Sara's father. Mike Bartholomew is Michael and Sara's dad. These are the terms the children use themselves. They call me mom, and you step-mom.

    While ex-husband Mike has no legal position with the children, they were raised predominently by me as Mom and Mike as Dad. So, even though we are divorced, that relationship remains an important part of both childrens lives and they have maintained that connection themselves. It would be cruel to sever that bond.

    That being said - Mike has played a large part in helping the kids heal their feelings and relationship with their father. We both have been nothing but supportive of Tracy as father and Denise as mom, and encouraged the same with both children.

    I hope that this isn't confusing to anyone. it is certainly not meant to lessen Tracy's position as their father, both physically and legally - nor is it meant to mute Mike's position as a father figure they have bonded with and relied upon, as well.

    The family dynamics of this group - Baker/Quadri and Baker/Bartholomew - has always been a delicate situation. I hope that during this critical time in our lives that we can resolve any differences and feelings for the benefit of not only Sara, but Michael and Andrew - as our collective children - and Tracy, Denise, Kristina and Mike - as the collective parents.

    But - if the recognition of who is a genetic parent is the clarification you are looking for -

    Christopher, Sara and Michael are the biological children of Tracy and Kristina Baker.

    Peace, love and respect. K

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